Here we go! The last month of the year, and what a year it has been. I think 2016, even though it still has a few weeks to go, will go down in the history books as a tumultuous one. Much has happened on the global stage as well as within people’s personal lives. I am sure if you reflect on 2016 and what has transpired, you and many you know have gone through a year of events that have rocked your/their world. Here we are at the end of the year, and many are cheering, glad that the year is almost over. Ready to step out of the worn, tattered cloak and pull on a fresh robe. They are looking towards 2017 with the hope that there will be a brighter, healthier, and more financially secure year ahead.
2016 has left scars that will take time to heal. However, our greatest gifts and awareness come from our deepest wounds. It is in healing we gain wisdom and knowledge, so don ‘t be too quick to slough off 2016 and jump into 2017. Ensure you allow time to heal the scars 2016 graced you with so that you will carry the wisdom earned into 2017. Not all scars will heal before the new year begins but know that you cannot sweep them under the rug as you step into 2017 and ignore them. They will need proper care and nurturing so that they don’t fester into issues that will cause bigger problems later.
December, for me, is always a joyful month. One which tends to be filled with good friends, family, great meals shared with laughter and love, drinks shared around tables as we catch up or share views about what is transpiring in our lives. I find myself looking forward to the start of December this year, more so than other years, perhaps there is a small part of me who is seeking peace and calm. As in “all is calm, all is bright.” I want to pull out the decorations, visit my favourite holiday locations, and share the magic of the season with those I love. I also want to look back at the year to gain clarity on all that has changed. I want to say goodbye while I dream about what I can achieve in the coming year. This truly is one of my most favourite times of the year.
If this year has been extremely weird, chaotic, and life changing for you take heart, let your hair down a little, and allow yourself to be filled with joy. December is the month that is about extravagance. We over indulge in all the good things life has to offer. We are filled with hope and excitement as we party on, saying goodbye to this year and hello to the next.
December is the 12th month which represents the completed cycle of experience. You should feel a sense of accomplishment this month even if it is just for having survived 2016. It also adds up to three (1+2) giving us a nurturing energy that expresses itself with tenderness. A sense of childlike wonder takes hold if our adult self can allow it, giving us illumination, abundance and good cheer. We all can use some good cheer right about now so embrace that childlike wonder and fill your heart and soul to overflowing. Use this rich energy to dig deep and discover what is important to you. Three also represents communication, and as we wind down the year, there is no better time to communicate honestly with yourself. This is the part of self-discovery that takes you the extra mile. Lying to yourself only harms you and your growth. The gentle energy this month encourages you to express yourself openly and honestly, at least to yourself.
We typically add more to our already full plates this month and compound the stress we are already under. Taking a slower, simpler approach to the holidays would benefit you. Don’t strive for perfect, strive for a holiday that will live in your loved one’s hearts and minds for years to come. Buy less, laugh more. Here are three tips to help you survive the hectic season so that you step into 2017 refreshed and ready for the adventure to begin.
Awareness – Ask yourself “why am I doing this?” What are the payoffs? What are the costs? Chances are you don’t even like the fruit cake you are making. However, it has been ingrained in you that you must have one each year. Or you are doing it because someone asked you to. Yet if the action leaves you with a feeling of dissatisfaction or anger, is it worth it? Could you buy a fruit cake and save yourself some time and angst? By asking that one simple question, you can discover what is truly important to all. Does the fruit cake recipient want a cake prepared in ho-hum gotta do this or worse anger? No, one made with love would taste better.
Action – Don’t react. No matter what is going on, take some deep breaths and keep your emotions in check. It does not matter if your children are hounding you for the latest and greatest toy that has caught their eye or your husband can’t find his clean socks which have been in the same drawer for 20 years. Pause, and check your emotions. If possible, delegate someone else to help ease the situation, perhaps your husband can divert the kid’s attention, or your children can help dad find his socks. This is good for all year and not just during the holidays. We tend to react, and in doing so, our actions (reactions) are always the same. By stopping and consciously not reacting, you give yourself the freedom to respond, and usually in a different way that is not present in the reaction flash.
Maintenance – Look after yourself. Self-maintenance is paramount during the festive season. If you get run down, you will not enjoy the season, and will not be able to help others enjoy it. In this season of giving – give to yourself. Indulge in simple pleasures that are catered just to you. A latte while out shopping, turning off the TV after the kids have been put to bed and spend some quality time with your mate, or grab that book you have been trying to read and indulge in a chapter or five.
December is a month to be enjoyed. Gather as much joy and love in your heart that you can. Then, when January hits, typically a slower month that leaves us feeling let down, you will have memories to pull out and savour at will.
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