Today I drew the card – Stay in your own skin. Immediately the quote “not my circus, not my monkeys” came to mind. As an Empath, healer, helper, I tend to want to rush in and be helpful, which often leads to “rescuing” the other person or persons. Not the best for me or the other people. When I take on what is not mine, I am setting myself up for mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion. When I take on what is not mine, I do a great dis-service to the other person by taking away their opportunity for growth and more importantly the dignity of attending to their own affairs.
The best of intentions always present when someone tries to fix something for me, or solve a situation. It is with the best intentions that I rush in and do the same for others. The line however is very fine as to offering to support them as they resolve their dilemma or jump in and do it for them. I also think of how I feel when someone jumps in with solutions and wants to fix my dilemmas, it is not my favorite thing. Oh sure, there might be times when I would like a “white knight” but I am pretty much an independent person who likes to think and do for myself.
Not my circus, not my monkeys – staying in my own skin today leads me to wonder if I have been rushing in instead of minding my own beeswax. It will be my mission today to stay in my own skin. If I notice that I am going into buttinsky mode, I will take a few breaths to bring me back to my center, back to me. If that does not work I will observe what is around me, and name them in my mind, a sure way to bring me back to me and not focus on what others are dealing with.
One more thought, being asked for help and doing so is a very good challenge to stay in my own skin. It will allow me the growth of being a helper while not getting attached to the outcome. After all, I am only helping another it is not my monkey, but theirs. I am just helping out at their circus for a short period of time.
It appears that the walls are tumbling down. The bigger the walls that you created to surround yourself with, the harder, louder and faster they are going to fall. Oh, you have been building walls for years, another hurt – another brick, act this way – another brick, do this, do that – more bricks. The bricks you kept stacking one on top of the other, often threatening to fall in all around you, yet by the grace of magic stood… until now. The weight of them is too much to bear, the bottom layer is crumbling, returning to the earth. The truth needs to come forth, no longer can you take solace behind your wall and pretend to be less than who you are. No, the time is now, to stand on your own head and see the world you have created. Stand on your own feet and see the world you created. Lay on your side for a while, then switch sides and have a look at the view from there. What do you see? Hmm dearest? What do you see?
Our hope and wish is that you see a life that is beautiful. One that you can be proud of. One that you can honestly look at and go “wow-wee look at how grand my life is!” “look at all that I have achieved”. For you have. No matter how dark some moments have felt, no matter if you feel like things are spinning out of control right now, know that you have created something beyond compare. No one else in this entire universe has what you have. You have been the master planner in your life all these years and have achieved more than even you thought possible.
Yet we knew, oh we knew, you were destined for the great adventures that would lead to marvelous achievements and profound success! WE had no doubt that you were one of a kind, a treasure that we feel honored to walk beside and provide assistance, comfort, love and guidance too. We see your heart, the way it opens up to everyone and we glow with pride each time… do you? Do you see your heart, how big and beautiful it is? We see your strength, when you just don’t think you can go another day… and yet you do, somehow you find the reserve and soldier on. Do you see your strength? You can (and often do) move mountains. We see your compassion, not your pity, your compassion, extending a helping hand to those less fortunate than you. Do you see the difference you make? We see your beauty, skin deep, a river runs through it, sexier than sin, every dimple, rumple, wrinkle and droop – we see your beauty. You do know you are beautiful, right? We know who you are, every inch, every smile, every tear, every action you have put into play, every emotion you have ever felt, and we love you. We admire you, and the time has come for you to embrace this wonderful being we know as you.
So let the walls tumble down. About time we say!! Don’t stand there trying to clean it up or waste your time trying to figure out where you went wrong. Like all things in your life that you have not understood when they were happening – one day it will make sense, for now just accept that it is happening. Take a good look at the new view you are gaining. Smell the fresh air that is rushing towards you. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and climb as fast as your legs will carry you over the rubble and onto the green grass that awaits you.
Do not despair, for you have this covered every which way to Sunday… and we’ve got your back! Carry on dear one, go forth, keep conquering the crazy moments and enjoy the rest!
with love your angels
We are halfway through the year 2014! Can you believe it? I sat with that thought for a moment this morning, as it dawned on me, and decided I was not going to reflect back over the last 6 months but would rather focus on where I was going. The quote to the left keeps coming up for me, and reminding me that, really we are only moving forward and to look back has us perpetually living in the past. I want to be living in the now so that each moment of my past is one to be proud of and each moment of my future is one that I have created with joy.
As July kicks off the second half of 2014 I will keep embracing each moment that comes before me. I will keep being curious and seeking new paths which bring joy.
How about you? Are you curious as to what is coming? Or would you rather lament about what has past?
Always thinking, always observing, always wondering and pondering the things that make life go round.