"Limits should define us, not limit us."
Limits are basically boundaries we set up to guard us and keep us comfortable. Often we are afraid to set limits for fear of offending others, fear of confrontation, we worry about disappointing others or we have a need for their approval. This can lead to feelings of being taken advantage of. When we find it difficult to set limits with others, we often take on too much responsibility and then feel weighed down. We might shrug it off as not knowing our own limits, and justify it by saying we are learning what they are. It is important to learn about limits. Limits do not have to be served with belligerence. When you are confident in knowing who you are, you are comfortable with your own limits and you serve them with love. You become more open and honest not only with those around you but with yourself. You don't allow your limits to define you, you understand you can explore your limits and that like the seasons they will change. This leads to self discovery of what will and will not be tolerated from others and even yourself. It is about valuing yourself enough to set limits to protect and honor who you are, it is not about limiting your potential, but a definition of who you are in that moment.
How often do you say no to requests and situations that make you uncomfortable or demand too much of your energy? No is the first step in setting limits, one small, simple word that can start you on the path to understanding your limits. Honor yourself, gently and one step at a time by saying yes to your self worth and needs.
Always thinking, always observing, always wondering and pondering the things that make life go round.