Today I drew the card – Stay in your own skin. Immediately the quote “not my circus, not my monkeys” came to mind. As an Empath, healer, helper, I tend to want to rush in and be helpful, which often leads to “rescuing” the other person or persons. Not the best for me or the other people. When I take on what is not mine, I am setting myself up for mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion. When I take on what is not mine, I do a great dis-service to the other person by taking away their opportunity for growth and more importantly the dignity of attending to their own affairs.
The best of intentions always present when someone tries to fix something for me, or solve a situation. It is with the best intentions that I rush in and do the same for others. The line however is very fine as to offering to support them as they resolve their dilemma or jump in and do it for them. I also think of how I feel when someone jumps in with solutions and wants to fix my dilemmas, it is not my favorite thing. Oh sure, there might be times when I would like a “white knight” but I am pretty much an independent person who likes to think and do for myself.
Not my circus, not my monkeys – staying in my own skin today leads me to wonder if I have been rushing in instead of minding my own beeswax. It will be my mission today to stay in my own skin. If I notice that I am going into buttinsky mode, I will take a few breaths to bring me back to my center, back to me. If that does not work I will observe what is around me, and name them in my mind, a sure way to bring me back to me and not focus on what others are dealing with.
One more thought, being asked for help and doing so is a very good challenge to stay in my own skin. It will allow me the growth of being a helper while not getting attached to the outcome. After all, I am only helping another it is not my monkey, but theirs. I am just helping out at their circus for a short period of time.
Always thinking, always observing, always wondering and pondering the things that make life go round.